I had the great opportunity to live one of my posts today. One thing that I see people do often is beat themselves up over the decisions that they have made. Even little things that go on in the day to day life, we can get hung up on and the next positive thought will not load into our computer like minds. Today I got to live that.

The way my schedule has been the only day that I get the chance to play golf is Saturday morning. So far this year, that has not been a very consistent event in my life. Due to weather, family event or an event at our course, I have only played 3 times this year out of a possible 14 Saturdays .

Last night before bed I checked the weather, it appeared to be iffy. I had faith and hoped it would be good. When I awoke this morning my wife said “Its going to rain, you are not playing today, are you?” At that moment, I was beat. I said, “nope, staying home” The moment I took my dog out, I knew I made a mistake and it was too late times wise to turn it around. Even now at 3:34PM, we have had ZERO rain…I would have been done two hours ago!

This is where the teachings come in. My wife walked into the office this morning about 11:50, I was doing some reading. She said, “Today probably would have been a good day to play golf”, I said “Not a good day, a GREAT day”

Immediately my self talk went into the negative ionosphere. I was critical, condemned and I complained. I thought of what I was missing. I thought of how much I had looked forward to it. I thought of how next week is in question because of schedule and the following week I am out of town. As I wallowed in my self pity and sarcastic shots at my decision making, it hit me, what the heck are you doing?

Immediately I stopped. I went to my meditation apps and listened to a couple of different 3-7 minute pieces.

One of them is that we can believe whatever we think. For example, if you tell yourself you will never be successful, your body will believe it. The opposite is true, if you tell yourself that you are already successful, your body will believe that too.

I kept telling myself that I made a terrible decision, my body believed it and all I could dow was regret, regret, regret. That made me feel down, defeated and depressed. A missed opportunity.. So after the meditations, I changed my thought to, good decision, your body needed the rest. What a difference. I found every reason why my body needed that rest and why going out to play golf would have been a terrible decision.

Change your thoughts, change your emotions…and have a better day.

I started to look at all of the things I could accomplish. How much writing and studying I could get in. I sent notes to a dozen people telling them how much I appreciate them and what they mean to me. I gave them evidence for each thing I said so that they knew it was sincere and thought out. I completed a couple of projects around the house, I played with my dog, Buffett, she enjoyed the attention and love. I chatted with my son, my daughter making plans with each of them I touched base with a business associate that is going to have a BIG impact on our franchise and its future. I connect with a couple of our current participants in class, answered their questions and let them know how much I appreciated their attitude.

Golf?

I will go next week.

This weekend was healing, touching, lifting and catching up. It was the perfect Saturday and gave me ample time to reflect on my mom and dad. Always a good thing to do.

In summary, there are enough people who want to tear you down, be your own biggest cheerleader and support your decisions. What happened cannot change, prepare for what you CAN change…

Best to you!

Bob