I was sitting on a friend’s porch sipping a coke and talking golf. I could not help to notice that the physical nature of the porch had changed from when I was over last. Just three weeks ago we had enjoyed watching a replay of the 2005 Tiger Woods, Master’s victory, now that television was gone. What happened? I asked. “Mel thought it looked better this way” Mel being Melissa, my friends’ wife.

Look better? My friend’s house backs right up to forest, a piece of land that can NEVER be built on due to zero access to the property…NOBODY will ever see this unless they are invited over and in the 14 years that they have lived here, I am one of the few that have come over. I wonder why?

Practical or image, what are your thoughts?

I know people that wear clothes that are two sizes too small. Why? So they can tell others they wear a size __! Imagine that, to live in misery so that someone else thinks you are a size ___? You do not fool them, they see it…

Another one that I see at times is furniture. People will have the most uncomfortable furniture in their house that never gets used, but it looks nice. Even if you have a lot of company, how many hours are they going to spend at your house in a month? 5 hours? More? Less? You LIVE in that house every day! Why not have comfortable furniture? That is being practical. People want that image, I should say, SOME people want that image.

I was visiting a client, potential client, within their home a couple of weeks ago. Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful, PLUS it was spotless, fantastic image and it looked LIVED IN or practical… Now that couple had it all.

What happens when the subjects are not “Things” and it is our “Thoughts” or “Who” we are that is being manipulated. Can people put on an “Image” so that others think they are different than who they really are?

Sure! AND THEY DO!

Social media is full of the IMAGERY of a person. The “Making of” someone from what they are to who they wished they were…

What are some of the areas that people like to hide their true TRUTH of who they are?

Age, you know it, they dress, get adjustments, use creams, coloring, yes indeed, there are many ways that we invest, purchase and endure pain just in order to look younger. The best way is to take care of yourself. To buy a gym membership and use it. Eat healthy, drink in moderation and work out…but that is too hard for some, so they let it slide, dress different, get the injection or just go for the full overhaul.

Money! Again, you got it. Run that debt until it cannot be run anymore. Yes, we can afford one more credit card we only have 16 now. That fifth mortgage on mom and dad’s old property should net us another 20k, I already told the kids we are not leaving them anything. Well, maybe a bill or two…(Good spot for canned laughter) Imagery is BIG in the money world, right? Success, wealth…yes sir, go ahead and buy that 16-year-old a brand-new Porsche Cayenne, nobody else will be looking down at her again! We do it, yes, we do.

Happy?!?! I cannot figure it out, ? or ! which should I use? Oh, so many people walk through life with a ball and chain around their neck and do not have the guts to unhook it. You see them in public, seemingly happy, THAT again is what they WANT people to think. misery is not fun and it is not something that you want to advertise.

We could have some fun with this one and maybe it will be a topic on the podcast. Get two or three other people in and we could really run this one up and down for an hour!

Here is the reality and why I write it.

LIVE YOUR LIFE.

Do you want to be an imagery person, be it. Do you want to be practical, be it! Do you want to be a little of both, then do it. It is your life. I believe you will be the happiest and most satisfied when you live a life that is more on the transparent side of the issue. Putting on a front for others only leaves you with a false sense of being. Really, a fictional character that you have built and that most of the time, cannot be maintained.

Nothing here to read…just out of my mind on a Monday Moaning! Get it? Today was MONDAY MORNING…MOANING? Oh, let it go…

Enthusiastically,

Bob